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  • Writer's pictureEllen

Is it OK to Be Selfish?


Embrace self-care without guilt

Transforming Perspectives for Your Journey of Self-Development

As we navigate through the journey of self-development and wellbeing, a question often arises: Is it OK to be selfish? The word "selfish" carries a negative connotation, often implying a disregard for others or a lack of empathy. However, let's embark on a journey to reshape our understanding of this term and explore how embracing a certain level of "selfishness" can lead to a more fulfilled and authentic life.

Embracing Self-Care as a Compassionate Choice We've been conditioned to put the needs and desires of others ahead of our own, sometimes to the point of neglecting our own wellbeing. But consider this: could prioritising our happiness and self-care actually be a compassionate choice? Just as we're advised to put on our own oxygen masks first before helping others during a flight, sometimes we need to prioritise our own happiness to be in a better position to support and uplift those around us.

Navigating Decisions with Self-Awareness Being "selfish" doesn't mean intentionally hurting others; it means making decisions that align with our own happiness and growth. When we choose paths that resonate with us, some people might not understand or support our choices, especially if it shifts the dynamics they're accustomed to. This is where self-awareness comes into play. By understanding our intentions and acknowledging that our decisions are rooted in personal growth, we can communicate our choices in a way that invites understanding and empathy.


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The Ripple Effect of Self-Fulfilment When we prioritise our own happiness and growth, an amazing thing happens: the people around us benefit too. As we become happier and more fulfilled, we naturally have more positivity and energy to share with others. It's like filling our own cup, so it overflows into the lives of those we care about. Friends, family, and colleagues may initially struggle with the changes they see in us, but as they witness the positive impact on our lives, they'll likely come to appreciate our journey.

Creating a Supportive Circle It's essential to surround ourselves with people who not only celebrate our happiness but also understand that sometimes, we need to take a step back for our own wellbeing. When we communicate our boundaries and intentions, we're better equipped to identify the individuals who genuinely support us. Those who leave may have served their purpose in a particular chapter of our lives, while those who stay and celebrate our growth are the true companions for our journey.

My Personal Journey This realisation hit home for me after a heartfelt conversation with a friend recently. It resonated deeply because I'd undergone a similar transformation a few years ago. I decided to live life on my terms, free from external expectations and perceptions. This shift led to a mixture of reactions, from departures to celebrations. It was during this time that I learned the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and creating a circle of supporters who understood and embraced my journey.


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Time to Enjoy Your Journey If you find yourself yearning to live life authentically, embracing self-care without guilt, I'm here to support you. I invite you to book a free discovery call with me, where we can explore how to step into the life you truly want, unapologetically. Your journey of self-development starts with a single step – the step towards prioritising your happiness and embracing a "selfish" mindset that fosters growth and positivity in your life and the lives of those around you.


Remember, being "selfish" in a self-aware and compassionate way is not just OK; it's essential for your wellbeing and the happiness of those you care about.


Let's start this transformative journey together.



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